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Intimacy
The second retreat in CTI‘s Leadership Program is called “Creating From Other”. It focuses on relationship, intimacy and the co-active dance.
Relationship is at the center of everything we do and are. We are created and BORN in relationship. We are in relationship with the person who fixes our car, takes our money at the toll booth and checks our luggage at the airport.
A chimp and a puma cub getting up close and personal.
Yet so much of the time, we move about in our own little bubble, only connecting when our body happens to bump up against another‘s. “Excuse me”. Pardon me for failing to make sure that I kept the illusion of separateness intact.
Right at the same time, people are longing for connection and intimacy. So, here we are, moving about in our illusion of separateness and always connected, always a part of the belonging that we seek.
It reminds me of a line from one of my favorite Rumi poems called “A Fresh Basket of Bread”.
“Mad with thirst, you can‘t drink from the stream running so close by your face. You‘re like a pearl on the deep bottom, wondering, inside your shell, Where‘s the ocean?”
We‘ve banished intimacy to the bedroom, to sex, and legislated touch beyond all understanding. Do you know that it is against the law for my sister, a second grade school teacher, to touch her students? They are SEVEN years old.
What is it that scares us so? That has us create this false distance and sense of separation? Are we really that afraid of being hurt? Of losing ourselves in co-dependency? Of being inappropriate or misunderstood?
Might it be a great idea to give things a chance and trust ourselves to navigate ensuing conversations for understanding? Wouldn‘t that open us to intimacy we are longing for?
KKH
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Craig Burk
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nlpcacoach
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becca
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