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In my spiritual study at the Black Lodge I have become the point (sort of like a director) of the Finance Task Force. No small job, this. It has given me occasion to contemplate the whole idea of money and to examine my limiting beliefs on the subject.

To begin with, what is money? I mean really. . .we make such a kerfuffle about it. . .and what IS it. . .beyond just some paper with pictures of dead people on it (or living people in some cultures).

money_tree_smPerhaps at it‘s core, I see money as a way of exchanging energy. I work and get money. I exchange it for goods and services. Sometimes people GIVE me money, or I find it or am awarded it somehow. Everything is energy. So, money is a handy way of exchanging energy and it means we don‘t have to hassle a whole bunch about what our agreements are and such. That‘s handy, right? So how come money is such a problem?

However you slice it, money is a relatively simple thing. It really is. And, oh my goodness, what a mess we make of it. We‘ve allowed it to “stand in” for all kinds of things–like security and self-worth. We have it mean that some people are more valuable than others or more successful than others. How could money possibly the sole (and soul) measure of a human‘s value or success? And yet in a culture that places a premium on earning, owning, and having, it‘s a natural conclusion. As I think about it, it seems that so much of the myth of separateness is bound up in our ideas and beliefs about money.

That‘s not money‘s fault. I don‘t think there is a thing in the world wrong with money. It‘s what we have money MEAN and what we make up about it that is deeply flawed. Even the more New Age idea of abundance is somewhat out of balance. More than enough. Why does anyone need MORE than enough?? I‘m not talking about barely enough. . .holding on by your fingernails enough. I‘m talking about sufficient. Enough. Just the right amount.

The amazing and incredible Lynne Twist outlines the concept of sufficiency in her life changing book “The Soul of Money”. If you haven‘t read it, you absolutely must. You can get it on Amazon for $12.98 or used for five bucks. Do it now!

Back to money, I do understand that it‘s important to plan ahead. Squirrels and lots of other animals store food for the winter. . .for the time ahead when there will not be enough food. Come a cold winter, sad is the squirrel who has failed to do this. That said, when was the last time you saw a squirrel worrying about his portfolio? Or wondering what he or she would do in retirement?

We can learn lots from observing the natural world and that‘s the great thing about nature. Nature plans ahead. . .and JUST ahead. A squirrel puts up food for the NEXT winter. . .knowing that Spring will come and that there will be food again. No, that‘s not right. I think a squirrel puts up as much food as he or she can. However, the food will go bad by Winter after NEXT. I‘m after something here that I can‘t quite get my hands around. Can you help me?

For now, I want to say that our limiting beliefs hold the myth of separateness in place. And it may be that the whole of our infrastructure has to crumble for that deadly, life diminishing illusion to shrivel and die. So be it.

Whatever opens, whatever the unfolding story of life has in mind, the WHOLE is well served by each of us examining our limiting beliefs about money. Here are some of mine. What are yours?

I have a limiting belief that my inherent, instinctual trust in the goodness of life is misguided. That I will be caught up short. That I‘m being a fool. Unwise. Naive. Others have been wise and prudent and I‘ll be sorry that I did not plan more for. . .for a rainy day????? Dunno. . .something.

This one runs me still from time to time. . .there is a voice in me, my mother probably, that I must shoulder my “share” of the load. God forbid I should shirk my responsibilities or be caught malingering. Or “coast”. Nope. No coasting for us Kimseys. We are a proud and hard working lot!

There‘s nothing wrong with hard work. Actually I LIKE to work hard. . .I like it quite a lot. I‘m one of those who loves a challenge and sweat on my brow. However this limiting belief robs me even of that pleasure because I feel I must work HARD. Here‘s the insidious part. How hard? Harder than everyone else? Harder than the person next to me? Well, the belief is somewhat vague on these particulars, leaving me like a gerbil on a wheel, running in circles without any hope of completion or knowing that I can stop now because I‘ve done enough.

Makes me smile :) to think of this silly belief. It lives in such an “either or” universe as opposed to a “yes and” universe. . and yet it does dominate me from time to time.

I still can‘t QUITE make the link between desire and fulfillment. And does “having” relate? How? What is it to attain what I desire? Are the two things related? Not? Maybe not a limiting belief, just an area of confusion.

There are more. And that‘s enough for now. I‘d love to hear some of yours. I‘d love to open up this conversation about money so that light can get it.
KKH


  • lynnyoung
    Hi Karen,
    Love Lynne Twist's frame on "enough" with money. (and her authenticity in person) too! Love her idea of enoughness---which you raise and we experience so juicily in our journeys. Too much! Too little! Wild feelings about all of that. I'm loving rolling "desire" around...and love the root of the word (which I think I heard first through David Whyte) being in the stars. Theres's a holy tug in that, I think. Love, Lynn
  • I like the idea of money as just another form of energy - and there are other forms of energy that can 'feed' and support us other than money. I have one example that I always turn to. My family has small island in Maine which has been in our extended family since the 1800's In the 60's, my mother decided that the family should open up the island to let whomever wanted to stay to stay and enjoy the island without cost She put out a log book for visitors on the cabin table, made it know locally on the mainland that people are welcome to stay (at their own risk) and if they wanted to give something back, there were many jobs that visitors could do to maintain the cottages/land. This has been going on now for over 40 years and the good will/energy/love that has been generated has more than been repayed. We've had no problem with vandalisim (that other private owners have had in the bay) and maintence costs have been kept low because visitors - particularly regular visitors - do jobs small (cutting up firewood, clearing paths) and large (building an outhouse, fixing a water pump).

    I don't think it's a concidence that we've also be blessed by several different types of endangered species of birds nesting on the island. In the 1970's, it was home to a family of Osperys (a bird threated by DDT) and now, it is the home of a pair of American Bald Eagles who have nested there to raise their young the last view summers (seeing an eagle teach its young to fly is something you can't put a price on.) I think wild animals are drawn to places with kind and generous energy from the human world. So, when I feel stressed about money or feeling like I need to be 'protective' of money or resources, I do think of this and it helps me to remember that being open, trusting and generous with ourselves/others will allow 'flow' to happen. I also believe in holding an intention around money - this might seem paradoxical but I don't think it's an either/or choice. This year I've held a firm intention to pay off debt acculmuated through years of paying for courses and by under-earning. And it's happening!
  • Joss
    Love this post, Karen!
    Mine: well - My biggest one - and deeply embedded is "money is the result of productive hard effort - it doesn't grow on trees!" Ouch.
    I love working at what I love - and it's not work, and it's not hard effort. And since it's not, then I don't deserve the money. Yes, that's the gerbil wheel.

    Now, add on: And, I've always been able to make money - usually enough for what I need and when there is not enough, then it's because I don't need anything.

    So for me discomforts around money are to do with the wanting vs needing scenario - and thank you for helping me to uncover that!
    Bless you - as always
  • My perspective: money is related to a particular form of consciousness, which some of us were blessed with as one of our gifts/strengths, and some of us were not. I would make up that, for instance, Donald Trump may have been blessed with the gift of money consciousness. Those of us who were not similarly blessed tend to struggle with it, and are required to *develop* efficacy with it. That's the bad news. The good news is that people who are blessed with this form of consciousness were *not* blessed with other forms of consciousness -- such as, say, emotional intelligence. They end up having to develop that consciousness, and that's their challenge in life, their burden or "cross" to bear.

    Now it often happens that people who got assigned emotional intelligence consciousness as their gift got a little bit shortchanged (pun!) on the consciousness that's genius with money. Darn! And yet... none of us is perfect. If you got to choose which consciousness you wanted to excel at, which one of those two consciousnesses might you choose for yourself?

    To wit, in my life I currently have poverty-stricken friends who need a bed for their daughter, and I have one to get rid of. Am I more comfortable selling it for cash, or giving it to them? Hmmm... which consciousness will win out? As with most other things in life, there is a choice to be made.

    -Vicky Jo :-)
  • So glad I saw the tweet about your post today - These are powerful concepts that have been on my mind as well and I believe are also at the heart of the core shifts that are in the works around the planet. It is an issue that is at the root of so many of the worlds challenges and by excavating the truth underneath all of our limiting beliefs around money - that is when we can begin to achieve real freedom in every area of life especially the physical financial realm.
    I concur that Lynne Twist's Soul of Money is life changing - and I love the synchronicity of the fact that I am currently gleaning wisdom from George Kinder's Seven Stages of Money Maturity - where he advocates, among other powerful points, " Money skills are the survival skills of the twenty-first century."
    Thank you for igniting contemplation and dialogue around this important topic!
    ;)
    Amy Miyamot0 ( @LotusAmy on Twitter)
  • Karen
    Hi Amy:

    Thanks for the reply and also the book... .I'll tackle it next!

    Much love,
    Karen
  • Karen! This is insanely (and wonderfully) synchronistic with no less than three different conversations and self-inquiries I've had recently about money, Nature, abundance, working "hard," etc...and one of those conversations included The Soul of Money, which I haven't yet read and which is on its way in the mail to me as of yesterday! Thank you for pulling all of my seemingly-disparate thoughts into one lovely post that's perfectly bite-off-and-chewable.

    As to your squirreling away food exploration above, it strikes me that a parallel could be this: there's nothing wrong with squirreling away resources for the future as long as we let those resources evolve, shift and change. E.g., the acorns that don't get eaten during the cold winter may rot and crumble, but you can bet 1000% that Nature has a way of using them. Maybe they get eaten by the ants who also live in the tree, or maybe they compost and somehow nourish the tree itself or something. Someone probably knows what value they bring...I just know there's something, even in their changed state, that's valuable. Their energy stays the same, their state changes. Nature doesn't waste, and it (we) evolve perfectly. For us human beans, there's the space of allowing the evolution. Maybe that's part of it...not holding so tightly and fiercely to our money and what we've decided it has to be for, that it has to stay exactly as it was when we invested it, etc. Is that making sense?

    Again, thanks! I look forward to seeing others' comments here, too.
  • Karen
    This is brilliant Laura. Today I had a conversation with someone about the way that I work with money reflects the way that I work with my own energy. Do I hoard that energy? Do I splash it all about as if it is nothing? Or do I allow it to move in me, through me.. .WITH me.

    From your reply, I see that money is the same way. It's not about how "storing" or not. ..it's whether we let the energy of our money move and change. This is a very meaty "acorn" for me to chew on. ..thank you Laura!
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